Scrolling through the most popular images on any “self care” hashtag, I’m bombarded with the same eye-rollingly repetitive imagery including:

–¬† Open-ended, fortune cookie-esque inspirational quotes like “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” or “My imperfections make me beautiful.”

– Super skinny white girls in front of tropical, beachy, etc. backgrounds looking like they’ve never felt any pain in their lives or seen the government take their student loan payment directly out of their checking account and ended up being left with $3.75

-Thousands upon thousands of faces smeared in some type of mud….something?

This endless imagery can lead a person to believe that self-care is only supposed to look like one particular thing. You may feel as though if you aren’t acting as these people do, then you’re doing it wrong.

That’s just not the case. The truth about self-care is that you’re supposed to do things that make YOU feel good. It’s all about what makes you happy; that’s it.

Below, I’m going to list some of the ways that I exercise self-care during the week.

Nia’s Super Awesome and Totally Effective Self-Care List:

  1. Limiting my phone usage (Lately, my social media usage has been affecting me mentally in a not so great way. Last week, my little phone told me that the average time I was on my phone throughout the week was five hours a day. FIVE HOURS. Basically, I treat being on my phone like it’s a damn part-time job. They ain’t paying my ass to be on this iPhone! Now, I’m trying to rip myself away from this beast of a device as much as possible. I’ve been averaging about three hours a day lately. It’s not the best, but it’s better.
  2. Reading more (Last weekend, I spontaneously went to the library with my mom. I remembered how much I adored reading as a kid, and missed having the attention span that I used to have. (DAMN YOU PHONE!) I walked out with three books, and I just finished one of them (It’s actress Mindy Kailing’s first book Is Everybody Hanging Out With Me? (And Other Concerns). Right now, I just started a book about entrepreneurship and side businesses, so I we’ll see how that goes.)
  3. Doing what I love without distraction or inner shame (I love watching great television. And I love to watch it over, over, over, and over again. I blame my father for this repetition, but that’s a whole another story. When I do ANYTHING¬† I’m usually on and off my phone while I do it (DAMN YOU PHONE!) So I’ve been trying to keep my phone out of arm’s reach while I’m doing things that I truly enjoy. Or, anything else really.
  4. Being intentional (The importance of being intentional can be applied to every aspect of my life. Being on auto-pilot doesn’t do any good for anyone, especially when you’re looking to grow, evolve, and truly enjoy your life. I try to make everything that I do have a reason behind it. Even if that reason is just because I enjoy it, because that’s important too. Every time I’m about to do something, I take a second or two to think about why exactly I’m doing it. If I can’t come up with a decent answer, you gotta get that stuff the hell out of here.)

How are you being intentional in your day-to-day life? Let me know in the comments’ section below.


Nia Simone

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