The Most Important Thing I Learned in my 22nd Year

As you might not have known, I recently turned 23 on August 8th. 23 is one of those ages that lingers in the spaces of time. It’s not really a milestone. There’s not any exuberant happiness (or sadness) that comes with that age. It just, kind of, happens.

It’s been almost two weeks since my birthday and I don’t think that I’ve sunk my feet into that age yet. I just changed the age on my Facebook bio. My Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr etc. still have that 22 lingering. Even though I’m not fully aware of my brand spankin’ new age, doesn’t mean that I haven’t felt the time pass.

The 22nd year is the first year that I’ve ever spent out of school since I was four (three? I forget I went to daycare at some random lady’s house.) It’s been a full year of ups, downs, inside outs, and all those other random directions. I’ve learned a lot, but the one thing that has been reiterated over the past 365 days is: My happiness should always come first, no matter what.

This isn’t some secret. Trust, I’ve had people tell me this many times over the years. But, it was this year in particular that made me take a look in the mirror and figure out what I needed to change within my life to stay as happy as possible.

Here’s a couple of changes that I’ve made:

  1. Fully immersed into my freelancing lifestyle, and stopped looking to mainstream 9 to 5 employment to convince myself; “I’m a big girl now.”
  2. Slowly distanced myself away from people who I knew didn’t care about me.
  3. Put self-care at the forefront; actively choosing to take care of myself in many different ways.

These are changes that have affected my everyday life. I work towards these factors each day because I know that accomplishing them keeps me in a positive state of mind.

It takes a lot to truly evaluate yourself and create a new plan. It really does. I’m definitely by no means done, but I think this is a good starting point for making sure that the next eighty years of my life go off splendidly. I’m fully committed to making the 23rd year the best year of my life.

I would love if you supported me through it. 🙂 If you have been supporting me I truly appreciate you taking the time out to read the words that flow out of my keyboard. It means the world.

What are some changes that you’re looking into making the next month, school year, semester, etc.? Let me know in the comments’ section below! Let’s all cheer each other on, so we can become the best versions of ourselves!

(This is me sending you a fantastic virtual hug! :D)


Nia Simone


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